Who I am.

I?m going to answer some of my critics, believe it not, I?m glad I have them, as they keep me honest.

My Name is Michael Clark, from Hartford.  Like Troy Jones, a frequent contributor, my family experienced the loss of a family member,  that was played out on local television.



There are more out there, but you get the idea.

I am and will always will be Raymond?s dad.  Today, he would have been ten years old.

Now,  you not only my name, you know my face and voice as well.  Who I am is no where near as important as what is posted here.  I have purposely kept my identity under wraps.  Not so much as I was hiding, more I didn?t want what is posted here to be distracted by who I am.  What is posted here affects our future.  Our future is more important than my past.

Because medical technology failed to save my son?s life, some may think I would be for this monster called Obamacare.  you would be wrong.  We need true tort reform, and let doctors, be doctors. Let them practice medicine based on their knowledge, and experience; not medicine based on some law.  We need to let research move forward, so no parent, or family, has to experience what my family has experienced.  We don?t need more government rules and regulations, doctors should be able to practice medicine, without fear of being sued,  or checking the ?rule book? to see what they can and can?t do.  We need the government to get out of the way.  The free market does work, even in the business of medicine.

While we are a nation of laws, there must be a sense of personal responsibility.  I have made some piss poor choices in my life, and I have paid for them.  The time Raymond spent in the hospital, I was unemployed, and while money was tight, I spent every day in the hospital with him.   If I was faced with the same situation, I would do it again.  There is some wealth that can?t be measured by numbers in a checkbook.

I had to swallow a big pill to ask for some help.  When I did, my friends, family, members from our church and some people who were total strangers where the ones helped us.  It was a truly humbling experience.  While we may not needed another heat-n-serve casserole,  it just as important for that person to give it us, as it was for us to receive it.  Part of being a good giver, is being a good receiver.  We got way more than just stuff,  we got hugs, smiles, tears, things you just can?t put a price tag on.  While there was some money from the government, I had no sense of what it meant for the government to ?give? the money.  There is a huge difference between giving because it is the right thing  to do, and having what you make taken away (in the form of taxes) to help those in need.

When we called Social Security to let them know of Raymond?s death, we were asked, ?Are you sure he?s dead??  I lost what little respect I had for anyone who works in the government right at that moment, Including those we have just elected.  I hope they can prove to me otherwise.  We don?t need more federal or state government.  We need local governments that work for the people.  Let communities help themselves, then the state, then the federal government can come and fill in the gaps.  The needs of communities like Hartford, are different from Pierre, which is different from Rapid City.  Our governments were designed to work from the bottom, up, not from the top down.  The federal government and to some extent the state has come out with a ?one size fits all? approach.  One size doesn?t fit all.

It seems rather fitting that Thanksgiving is next week.  We seem to have that first part down rather well.  We give thanks for our possessions, for our friends, family, for our freedoms, the list can go on.  What about that second part, how many of us really give?  Several weeks ago, Pat Powers asked for someone, or a team to take over the web site.  I offered my services because I knew few would.  This is something I enjoy doing, and others may benefit from my ramblings.  I am honored to be working with folks like TC, MikeH, Kristi Golden and the Archer.

Next  week is Thanksgiving and Black Friday.  Like most other people.  I will be working to put my job on hold for a few days,  and  I will be traveling to far off lands for our annual fatting feast, thus, next week?s posting may be a tad light.  Until then.

Stay warm
Stay dry
Stay out of the ditch.

13 Replies to “Who I am.”

  1. springer

    I remember seeing Raymond’s story on Kelo. I never met him or you, but he seemed like a wonderful little boy with a great outlook on life. My prayers are for him and all of your family.

    I agree with your well-written post concerning Obamacare. Two of my three grandchildren were born with medical problems. One had four surgeries by the time he was five months old and spent the greater share of that time in and out of hospitals. The other just had major surgery at six months. I am very thankful that the doctors in both cases were able to do what they needed to do without the gov’t bureaucrats getting in the way. The surgeries were successful in both cases and I am, especially at this season, thankful for our exceptionally wonderful health care system and talented doctors. I am scared that this will not be the case with the ill-advised, unread, corrupt Obamacare.

    Thanks for giving us a glimpse into your life, MC, and thanks for helping keep this great blog going. Have a great Thanksgiving!

  2. Troy Jones


    We are in a club we never wanted to join, would do anything to get out of, and can’t be kicked out of. More than talking politics, I’d like to get together and talk about Sydney and Raymond. May God Bless the Clark’s today with a rose petal from Heaven.

  3. Bill Fleming

    Peace, Mike and thanks for sharing your story and identity. Troy is wise in his choice to keep politics out of conversations that share context with your tragic loss, and so I will, in kind, honor and emulate his instincts in that regard.

  4. Anon

    Mike, I enjoy your posts. I especially appreciate your courage to share your story. You give that much more credibility to your arguments/positions. And God bless your son. I am am sure that beautiful boy has an incredible pair of wings and watches over his family and loved ones with the tenacity of the greatest fighter ever. From the Kelo story, he certainly showed his strength and resolve here on earth. Thank you for sharing your story.

  5. BurningBrule

    This brought tears to my eyes – especially as the father of a 10-year old boy myself. Thank you for sharing and touching us during this week of Thanksgiving. Stories like this give us a needed reminder that life transcends politics. Peace.

  6. Mike Buckingham


    You reminded me of how much I have to be thankful for this week, two healthy productive children and a wife who shares my love, family and friends that are supportive and giving, and a job that is rewarding both emotionally and financially. Sometimes we need to be reminded how very lucky and fortunate we are to appreciate these things. Your story touched my heart and as I sit down to break bread this Thursday I will take a moment to reflect on the gifts I have received and just as important the challenges I was allowed to bypass.

    In this post you shared your humanity – I hope all will respect your views even as they may disagree with the message. Our next Lt. Governor was the Speaker of the House during my first term in the legislature taught me a valuable lesson. As we debate the issues we do not have to be disagreeable while we disagree. Thank you for sharing a bit about you and I look forward to lively discussions that move the conversation forward.


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